When To Talk To Your Kids About Drugs and Alcohol

When To Talk to Your Kids About Drugs and Alcohol

One question I currently was asking myself, as a parent, was “When am I supposed to be talking to my kids about drugs and alcohol?”  Because I had so many problems with it myself, I am in a constant state of panic that my children may run the same course.  It is very important to me that they have all the information, that I didn’t have, prior to their decision whether or not to use.

The number one determining factor for if a person will become an addict is age of first use.

As a parent, does our influence even matter?  Isn’t it their friends that will eventually pressure them into whether or not to use?

That is what I always thought, peers have the greatest influence.  I WAS WRONG!  I found that when polled, kids replied that their parents were the number one influence over whether they decided to use drugs or alcohol.  They actually care what we think!  This is great news!  The poll even went one step further in uncovering that the number one reason kids decide NOT to use drugs or alcohol is because they don’t want to disappoint their parents.

So what does this mean?

We need to get involved.  We need to educate our kids because education is power.  If we can give them the proper tools, attention, and love we can guide them to make the right decisions.

We should have several conversations with our children about drugs and alcohol with the first being 2 years prior to possible first use.

In the video below, I go over the initial information needed to prep you for when to have first talk.  You will want to be up to speed with the drug trends in your local schools.  The national average is that kids will be introduced to drugs and alcohol around the eighth grade.  I find this to be true where I live but you should check with your school or local paper if you are unsure about your area.

After viewing the video, be sure to subscribe because in future episodes I will discuss what key points you will want to include in your discussions about drugs and alcohol as well as have “the initial conversation” with my son Jaxon.

Addiction is a disease and is preventable.  Let’s do our part to educate our kids and help them to have all the information needed to make healthy choices.



How Much Wine is Too Much?

Have you started to get that nagging feeling inside that you might be drinking to much wine?  Has it become something you do most nights if not every night?  Are you filling your glass all the way up?  Are you drinking more than one glass?  How much is too much?  How do you know when to cut back?

These are all questions I wish I would have had answered when I drank wine.  I’m not allowed to drink it anymore.  I abused my privileges and rehab took it away.

I’m not saying that you are going to become addicted to alcohol like I did.  However, you may bring on a lot of unwanted pounds and health concerns.  My hope is by educating you on the damage that can be done, by frequently drinking multiple servings of wine, that you can make a responsible decision on whether to cut back or quit all together.


Bad news first.

If you cry when you think about how much wine you drink, if you drink because you are depressed or stressed, if drinking that wine at night is the only thing you look forward to and that can make you feel better…then you need to quit today.  If you quit now before it gets out of hand you may be able to socially drink again in the future.  If not, you WILL begin to slowly spiral out of control.  Alcohol is a depressant and will only magnify any problems or hopeless feelings you may be dealing with.  You are also more likely to become addicted if you are using while struggling with depression or anxiety.  Stop today.  Find out what is bothering you and get the help you need to find solutions and put plans into action.

If you need help creating a plan to quit drinking or just want to talk – I am here to help.  Email me at leslie@lbowroom.com.

If you don’t believe you fall in that category and just enjoy drinking wine…let’s talk about what you may be doing to your body.

First, a serving size of wine is 5oz with 250z in a bottle.  If you are not confident on how much that is, please measure it out and take a look. It is about 1/2 a standard wine glass.  So if you are filling up your glass…you most likely are taking in 2 servings.

The recommended daily allowance for a female is 1 serving per day.

I know…you didn’t want to hear that.  You won’t like this either.  There are about 100 empty calories in a serving of wine.  So let’s say you drink 2.5 servings a day – that is 250 calories.  To me, that is 30 minutes on the treadmill.

But that isn’t even what really bothers me.

Your body metabolizes alcohol the EXACT SAME WAY that it does SUGAR!  Public enemy #1!  Sugar makes you gain weight, bottom line.

If you drink on a regular basis it is going to effect your metabolism!

You may not yet but you will gain weight.  If you keep drinking on a regular basis you are going to mess with your metabolism to the point where you will gain weight.  The best part is you are going to gain it right in your belly!  My metabolism took such a hit during my drinking that it was over a year before I got the weight off my midsection.  I was asked on a regular basis if I was pregnant.  Good times.

By drinking in excess you are also putting yourself at greater risk for diabetes, heart disease, and some cancers.

If cancer, diabetes, or heart disease runs in your family I strongly suggest you evaluate your drinking TODAY!

By drinking in excess you are adding years to your appearance.  Don’t believe me?  Stop drinking for 2 weeks and see the difference.

By drinking in excess you can possibly decrease your fertility.

By drinking in excess you put yourself at risk for Chronic Fatigue.  That means that you feel tired ALL THE TIME.  Sounds amazing!  No thanks.

I get it.  Wine is sexy and romantic.  Maybe once in awhile.  But you know what isn’t sexy?  A drunk lady with a pregnant looking belly that is tired all the time.  Get it under control.

Hopefully, this will inspire you to evaluate how much you are drinking during the week.  I suggest you write down how many servings and how often you are drinking them.  Once you have that information you can decide what is the best decision for you.

I’ll leave you with this…being in control of my life, having a healthy mind, body and spirit, and being present for those I love is better than any glass of wine I have ever had.